A Mother of 3 how to Deal!!!!!

You know it is strange. Mother's are sometimes not given credit all the time for what they do. Why is that? I found for myself since I am now a mother of three all under the age of 3years what it means.  Now for me personally my mother and I do not have such a great relationship. I could write a book and create a movie about my family and all the craziness which is more than dysfunctional. I have two really close friends that know my family members and sometimes my drama is a saga.  Back to how to deal with 3 children under 3. Many mother's out there deal differently with their children because they are all different.
       My daughter Karena is 2 and going on 20 just as snotty as she wants to be. Now why is is that the first word they learn is "NO"? Some professionals would say because of  the parents always saying that word they learn that first. I do not think telling them yes to hitting their siblings is right. Trying to redirect them to a more productive activity seems to be a task as well. How do I truly deal with them? Karena I just make sure she is not being mean to her younger brother DeVante who is 1. Watching them devise little baby plans to do bad things is so funny sometimes. The best I try to deal is laughter!!!! Without it all hope and sanity is completely lost. Oh and my youngest is Anisha and she will be 4 months on the 27th of January.
            I know my parents did the best they could but, with such a strained relationship it is hard to communicate anymore. The best way to deal just laugh it is so much better than crying!!!!!!

Trust is it an issue or just an Insecurity?

Trust does every couple married,engaged,dating have this issue?  It seems that this topic comes up for discussion a lot. If you have trust issues you are insecure within yourself. Does anyone really believe everyone has that problem?  Here is an example, a man is on the internet and writes women he is not involved with. Is that an issue for some people? I mean he is not hurting anyone and his significant other he is not cheating on her. What is the big deal?    
      It is a problem if she/he does not appreciate it. If the person expresses their dislike for what he/she is doing and does not care is that still a trust issue?  No it is not!!!!!  If you love that person enough you will not hurt them in that way or any other way.  Insecurity goes to a whole other level and that has complete and utter distrust for that person.    Depending on what that couple is going through at that time determines trust or pure insecurity. I you trust then you have no doubt in your mind that they are doing you wrong.

Love, Laugh,Live and if you have to hug it out!!!!!

Is Dating to Slow, and Marriage happens to fast?

   Is there a set timeframe for how long to date?  Why do women sometimes feel the need to marry fast?  Are there some women who wait to long? Do men really have commitment issues?

         The list of questions goes far to long and has to many side questions. I know that women still want men to open doors, pull out chairs and be a true gentlemen. Is that happening now? If you look around just where you live at how young men dress and some of the young ladies you think Wow!   I know  I do when youn teen men have their pants dropping way below their waistline hmmmmm??  Why??? Or young teen women showing so much chest or their undergarments when they bend over clearly showing hmmmmm?  

     I will not say expression in your clothes is wrong no. However; if a girl or grown woman feels the only way to attract a man is to display all the goods what is the point?  Some men may like that for a time but, will the future mother-in-law be comfortable saying my son made the best choice.   Likewise if a woman brings her future husband  who she wants to her father. Will the father say I know my daughter will be taken care of and he will support my daughter in the way I have?

   Too many times I believe divorce comes from not spending enough time toghether in the dating phase and running straight into the marriage position. Never rush donot be so picky or too lax that you cannot give yourself the best start to a great relationship all the way to marriage.

  Go and find that person. If you already have that person let them know how you feel and that they did make the right choice chosing you!!!!!

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Does Society Dictate What Person You Should Date?

   Do people listen to society to help them find that special person?  

     I hope not I really believe that you should fall inlove and make your choice based on your heart.  Now do not get me wrong some types of people we should cut ties with and just chalk it up to experience.  I believe 5 good characters someone should be able to see and not feel like oh no this is aweful, what have I done?

1.     How that person treats you emtionally,mentally physically and spritually.
2.     If you can see yourself with them in 20 years and still be happy.
3.     Does this person have history that you have to accept and deal with. Ex: Divorced, Children, Criminal past, Drugs,and or alchol.
4.     Do you feel comfortable in public with this person just in a general setting such as; Mall, Park, Stores etc.
5.      Do You Truly Love this person and can see past all those faults and truly Love that person for them?

  Now that is not cold rock hard stone things must be but, as far as giving yourself a start it helps.  Society sometimes does influence or choices not always in a negative light but, it does tend to sway some things.   The road less traveled is not always the easiest route.

    Another thing that causes people to break up is family. That's a whole other issue but, if you find that person life has it's hard and tough roads already. It would be ashame to let the person you wanted go because of something other people do not like. 
 Go out there and grab that woman or man and make your life just that much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dating not always traditional!!!

  Can you imagine meeting your future husband at a candy store?   What about at Wal-Mart?  Is it hard to believe you can meet your future spouse in the unlikest places?
     Do women think that ideally you will meet a successful businessman in a elegant resturant?  Do men believe their future wife will be as pure as the driven snow untouched by a man and, faithful only to him and her first everything?
      Like this title says "Dating is not always traditional" and that is true. Chat lines you can find love, speed dating, the internet, anime convetions etc.  Love has no boundaries and does not matter where you meet. I used to believe that I would fall in love with a successful military or businessman and be set for life. Reality set in very quick.
       Women sometimes and this is just my thought think their standards should either be so high or settle so low.  If they are to high no man will ever meet every standard and requirement you want. To low you get a man who is not even remotely acceptable to even bring around your friends let alone your family.
        For all the people thinking I will never find that special man or woman? Remember be flexible enough to let your standards come down but not all the way till you feel like you are settling for anyone who will have you.
         Get out there and don't just focus on pretty or handsome or looks so much. Try to find a lot of commonalities and why you may or may not want to love this person?

Friends playing matchmaker!

  Okay ladies and gentlemen why do our friends like to hook us up? Do they think we are that sad of a person not to be able to find our own special person?
     Men picking up women with old "pick up lines" does this truly work? Originality with a suave not cocky attitude should be just the way to attract that special Lady!!!!!!
    Ladies it is fine to have high standards but,not so high that no man can ever be could enough. Do not settle in your mind just make your standards at least somewhat attainable!! Compromise looks for a sweet heart, maybe muscle for brain, and perhaps even job for a hardworker!!!!

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Will you date him or no?    Does he need love or some special pills for him. This is not a person for a dynamite date.


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